I was not looking forward to telling them at all but they were very supportive overall. Some just buried there heads in the sand and pretended it wasn't going to happen and some were very interested and wanted to know every single detail.They all said how much they would miss me and how they wished I was staying. I was always known as the organiser, most events and meet ups seemed to be arranged or instigated my me and I was usually the one to make the first contact. This often got to me and many times I vowed to do nothing and ring no-one until they rang me but inevitably after a while I caved in and contacted them. Sometimes I wondered if they were just being polite as surely if they liked me as much they would be more enthusiastic or maybe they had more interesting lives!
Aaron warned me time and time again that when we moved I'd lose contact with them all, I refused to believe him as surely with the wondrous invention of the interweb and all it's possibilities that would be impossible. I brought 3 people Skype phones as leaving presents, maybe being a bit desperate as it's surely not normal to give people you are staying where they are leaving presents but I was worried about them getting round to doing it themselves!
That may have been a waste of time as almost 2 years on I am yet to have a Skype call with any of those people. I gave them all my address and a discount phone code to call my Cypriot landline for 0.5p per minute..... bargain! I upload my life onto the internet through my blog and Facebook account and I still don't know what anyone else is doing. There are a few people I regularly interact with on Facebook but surprisingly they are not the ones I thought they would be, they are mostly new people I have met in Cyprus so therefore don't actually need to talk online or a selection of random school friends or ex-colleagues.
Am I wrong to have expected a bit more? Does this just prove that I have a bit of a Facebook addiction? Are they not missing me as much as I thought they might? or should I still do ALL the running as I was the one who left? Should I just get over it and realise that they have moved on?
We have had a couple of visits and I know that it's money that has prevented more, that I can completely understand, but I do wish they emailed me their news or rang for a chat, just to feel like I was still part of their lives. I assume (Ah, I remember.... Assumption is the Mother of all F**kups!) that they sometimes look at my photos or read my blog..... who knows?
I deliberated over this post for a long time as I was worried it would turn into a rant but I really do miss my girlies..... so (in no particular order) Sarah, Nicola, Claire, Su and Ali.......if you are reading this....Get your backsides to a computer and come for a good old catch up!
To end on a positive note though...... Our great friend and Leo's
Codfarmer Godfather Martin definitely wins the prize (see girls, bet you didn't know there was a prize ;) ) for staying in contact. Being as he is a computer geek does a very important job with computers or something we are probably in even more contact than we were before. Of course this could be because he's just checking we are still 3000 miles away :)
You can see the rest of my A to Z posts here..
Edit: I realise now this sounded very harsh, I apologise to my lovely friends if I upset them in anyway, of course this was not my intention at all - it was just me in my stupid way of saying how I miss you all and wish we were not so far apart.... and yes, I realise this wouldn't have happened if I hadn't moved abroad, it was my choice and I am happy about it I just want it all ;)